As time passes, we like to simplify our lives.
Hubert de Givenchy
Life is not easy, We are looking for more peace, space, time, and energy. The changes we can make are not complicated. They just need our commitment. The top 10 things to simplify your life can make it just a little bit easier.
Everything in our lives take up space, whether its:
In our minds
In our homes
On our calendars
If we have too much negativity, or abundance from one or more of the things that take up our space, it will throw us off balance.
How you think, what you own, things you do, and the people you spend time with will affect you negatively or positively depending on the choices you make.
The solutions for simplifying are easy, but take some work. Doing the work is what changes you. Bad habits can become good habits. You learn about yourself, and often take a different direction. You gain more clarity so you can focus on what makes you happy.
The Top 10 Things to Simplify in Your Life:
Owning more things was supposed to make us happier. Instead they deplete our bank account, our time, our energy, and our attention. Too many things cloud our vision of what we really want from life.
It takes time to get good at being simple. But if you invest the time now, the benefits will come back to you. Including more time than you’ve ever had.
Simplicity becomes the clarity in which you find meaning in your life. Clutter May have Significance in Your Life.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
2. Negative Thoughts
Take responsibility for your mind, your thinking, and your life.
Negative thinking is a bad habit and a learned behavior. It can also be genetic, but it doesn’t mean you can’t change it.
We brainwash our minds with thoughts that we make up and believe. These thoughts make us feel hopeless, mad, frustrated, anxious, and defeated. But we can brainwash our minds to our advantage by creating truthful, positive thoughts that empower us. A tiny thing we can do that will have a massive difference with anxiety is to love ourselves.
Forgive past hurts – because holding on to them can negatively affect your physical health too.
In order to change your mindset from more is better, to less is better, it is important to declutter all of your possessions first. Furthermore, decluttering by category versus room by room is the key to get it right the first time. Clutter can make you anxious, but there are things you can do.
The magical transformation of living in a simple, organized house will help you realize that you have enough. The need to constantly buy “things” disappears.
Of course, we all love new things, but when you have less, your purchases are geared more to your ideal lifestyle. For example: Once you get rid of the things you really don’t love – you stop buying more of the same.
You won’t feel guilty buying a new bike or a new pair of running shoes because exercise is important to you. Without the junk to organize, you’ll now have time for it.
I’m not great at budgeting and there are lots of methods that help you save money. The simplest suggestion I have is to save 20% of what you make.
4. What You Say
Listen more than you speak. You know what you already know, and listening helps you to be a better learner. This is helpful when you aren’t feeling confident in a social situation. Most people like to talk. If you ask them questions, they are happy to answer – and you won’t have to talk.
At the same time, learning how to be assertive helps feel empowered. You can be silent because you want to, not because you lack confidence.
Say what you mean and mean what you say. People will respect you more, and you will feel better about yourself.
The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give to each other is our attention.
5. Processed Foods
Take care of your body so your body will take care of you. The 80/20 rule can help. Eighty percent of the time, choose foods that are vital and nutritious. Vegetables, fruits, beans or walnuts energize us with only one ingredient.
Nutritious food found around the perimeter of the supermarket tend to be healthier than what is stored in the middle isles. So, if we fill our carts with 80% of the nutritious foods, we have 20% for the not -so- healthy- cheat – foods on the weekends. Try eating meat as a side dish instead the majority of your meal. Instead have your vegetables be the main dish. of Drink more water!
6. Time Commitments
Planning too many activities in one day can cause stress and anxiety. Anxious people tend to struggle with managing their time.
Write down all the things you do in a day. Write every few hours so you don’t forget any details. And do this for a couple of days so you can get a good idea where you’re spending your time. This will help you recognize how this causes stress.
When you have your lists in front of you, it will help you get rid of the things that aren’t important. You may not even like doing them, but for some reason – do it anyway.
- Social media – unless it involves your job
- Browsing the internet
- Checking emails more than 3-5 times a day
- Shopping (unless necessary)
- Cleaning/organizing home
- Saying yes
- Feeling tired
One of the biggest time wasters is organizing and cleaning your house
There are only 52 Saturdays a year, most of them can be yours.
Warm, sunny days are few and far between. 11 weeks of summer goes by way too fast to be doing things you don’t want to. Schedule your summer in the spring so you are committed to the things that make you happy
Schedule time every day, just for you
Make family time a priority when possible
You don’t have to commit just because someone asked you
Making a choice can be the most difficult obstacle we face. When we have too much going on around us, it can further cloud our judgement and keep is stuck. When we minimize our possessions this gives us the space we need to decide what brings us joy into our lives. We will have to take a risk and we are afraid of what’s on the other side.
There’s no one solution or one path to take when we have to choose because there will always be something good and bad to consider.
If we make the wrong decision, at least we are brave enough to make it. Not making a choice could lead to lost opportunities and unhappiness. The most successful people make the most mistakes because they dare to make them.
If we decide not to make a choice about something we know we need to do, then we we are choosing to keep things the way they are.
Simply making the choice is a step towards freedom.
Make an essential list so you can be happier. List 5 things that would make your life ideal and write 2 or 3 things you will do to make them happen. Eliminate all of the things you are doing that are preventing you from reaching your top 5 goals.
Your list may change throughout your life. Once you reach a goal, you will cross it off to make room for another. Some goals will never change, like spending time with your family, or taking care of your body.
Write these questions and answer them:
What do I want to do?
What do I really want to do?
What do I really, really want to do?
Then do it!
What you focus on grows.
The older you get; the less time you have to do the things you want. Don’t let too many outside obligations get in the way of your family. Don’t feel guilty if you are not saying yes to everybody, all the time.
Eliminate or limit time spent with anybody who does not bring you up. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known them. You shouldn’t feel obligated to give your time to people who don’t care about you. Your time is precious and you deserve to benefit from the time you have.
Try to be consistent with your sleep routine. Go to bed and get up at the same time every day. Your body will thank you for it. An extra hour on weekends is fine, but much more can throw you off. Even better – go to bed earlier and get up earlier. This way you have time to yourself every morning.
Go to bed earlier and get up earlier by 15 minutes every night for a week or two. Then add 15 more minutes on both ends the following week. Do this until you reach your ideal bedtime.
Take 15 minutes to prepare for the next day:
Set up the coffee
Choose what you’re having for supper the following day
Pick out your clothes
Throw in a load of laundry
Empty the dishwasher
Put your exercise clothes by the door (limits your excuse not to go)
Simple Living For You
Simple living is different for each of us, but in general, a simplified life means that you are getting rid of any extra mental and physical clutter, so that you can have more time for the things that actually matter to you.
We’ve been lulled into the belief that having more will make us happy. While that might be true for a few, the reality is that most of us have more than we need.
We will experience the good and the bad when we finally decide to make life easier. One bad thing is more work for the short term. But the good is freedom and happiness.
Simplicity is something that is plain, natural, or easy to understand. It is freedom from hardship or effort.
P.S. It’s hard for me to find the bad from doing the work. It is the work that transforms your life. It will not outweigh the good in this situation.
It took me several months of work to overcome anxiety disorder. I had to learn how to talk to myself. I changed my expectations of others and myself. I learned how to be assertive. I stopped worrying. I was afraid to do the work because I didn’t know what the result would be. Maybe I’d feel worse? What if it didn’t work – then what would I do? What if I changed into somebody that I wouldn’t recognize? The solution to get better was simple. It was up to me to make a commitment. I might still be anxious if I chose not to invest a few months of my time – that was 20 years ago.
What is your number one priority in simplifying your life?