“Leap and the net will appear.”
Anxiety disorder feels like you have been cursed because you are in a constant state of worry and you are not living life the way you want to. How could something good come out of something so mentally painful? What can you when your anxiety disorder has gotten out of hand and it’s just not tolerable anymore?
Anxiety disorder doesn’t just appear out of nowhere. It is a result of worrying and thinking negatively for a long period of time, often triggered by something stressful or traumatic. This brings you to a place where your worrying is consuming too much of your life.
You’re at a place that feels like a black hole where you are desperate for help because you’re surviving each day, not living. You know that therapy can help you get better and now you must decide what to do from here. You’re at the fork in the road, and going left is playing it safe – You will stay the course even though you’re anxious, but at least it’s familiar to you. You choose to stay comfortable, being uncomfortable. Going right is scary too, because you have to change your thinking, and it is going to take some work. You have been avoiding situations that you will now have to face.
“Leap and the net will appear.”
It’s scary to commit to changing your ways to get better because you are risking your time and money to get help. You also might think that true happiness is not possible. You’ll have doubts that you will be successful, and then what happens? You might get worse, or you’re afraid that there will be no hope if you try and you don’t succeed. Deciding to do something increases your anxiety. but the anxiety you feel from staying the same is worse than the anxiety you experience from changing. Facing your fears means that you are making a commitment to yourself, but you’re afraid.
Any achievements you have accomplished so far in your life came with risks.
- Becoming a mother
- A new job
- Buying a House
- Starting a new venture
- Letting your kids make mistakes
- Facing a fear
- Voicing your opinion
None of these were easy and you certainly made mistakes, but you did it anyway.
This website has caused me a lot of grief, and I’ve given a significant amount of my time and money to get to this point. I love the writing part, but the technology is frustrating and it stresses me out. It takes me hours to complete a task that many could do in one. The negativity creeps in and I wonder if my computer deficiencies will get the best of me. I don’t know what the end result will be, but I’ve come too far to quit.
Don’t Worry About The End Result
When you are trying to defeat anxiety disorder, you must focus on the process of getting better, not the end result of how you will feel when you’re done. Find help, get information, do your homework and try not to worry about whether or not it works. If you take the risk, commit, and give it time, the result could very well be – achieving the peace of mind you deserve.
20 years ago, when my anxiety was the worst, I committed to a cognitive behavioral program that helped me change my thinking. But my anxiety heightened because I was afraid that my personality would change, and that people wouldn’t recognize me. I thought I might not recognize myself – I might get brainwashed! Thank God, I did not give in to my fears. The only thing that changed about my personality was my attitude, and this helped me overcome my anxiety.
Know that doing the work may cause you a little more anxiety than you started with. This is because you will be facing what you are afraid of.
Watch Out For This Kind Of Thinking
You decide that it’s not possible to overcome anxiety and you stop trying because this way you won’t be disappointed if it doesn’t.
You procrastinate facing your anxiety until you feel better. It’s better to try to change when you feel stronger. It doesn’t work that way because facing your fear and doing it anyway is what helps the anxiety go away. Procrastinating until you feel better will keep you stuck.
If a million people gave a five-star review on a book that helped them overcome anxiety and a five thousand people trashed it, I hope you would take advice from the 995,00 people who gave it the thumbs up.
Don’t listen to Really Negative People
Really negative people go out of their way to cause grief for someone who has worked hard to achieve their goals. Chances are, the haters who trash a self-help book expected someone else to do the work so they wouldn’t have to. Overcoming anxiety involves work, but while doing it – you will discover a lot about yourself, and you will learn important coping skills that can help you stay better. Focus on the reasons why you can get better, not the reasons why you can’t.
You Can Be Analytical and Skeptical
We tend to be analytical, skeptical, or even cynical, but this is due to our negative thinking. Recognize that you sometimes do this and it might be your way of resisting change. Don’t focus on the negative reasons why you can’t get better because there are so many reasons why you can.
I remember worrying that my anxiety was worse than the next person’s and that my situation was unique. Don’t let it keep you stuck because this is common too. As it turns out most of us struggle with the same things:
- Thinking/talking negatively
- Having unrealistic expectations of yourself and others
- Obsessive thinking
- Anticipating the worst-case scenario
- What – if thinking
- Lack of assertiveness
- Low self-esteem
- People pleasing
Recognizing that you are not alone in your struggle can make a big difference in your recovery.
It is a risk to put your time and effort into overcoming anxiety because you do not know the end result.
Take the Leap
You don’t know the end results of most of the challenges you face. Every aspect of your life is affected if you stay anxious. The opportunity here is that you have gotten yourself to a scary place where you need to do something. Make the decision to do it! Taking the first step is difficult, but imagine what your life be like if you weren’t anxious.
What good has happened from a risk you took?