“What you are afraid to do is a clear indication of the next thing you need to do.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Along those same lines, Robin Sharma said:
“The fear we don’t face becomes our limit.”
How do you motivate yourself to do the things you want to do? And how do you stop Procrastinating and get things done now?
Pretend to be someone else.
Todd Herman wrote The Alter Ego Effect : The Power of Secret Identities to Transform Your Life.
He writes that the person who is getting in the way of reaching your potential is you. Pretending to be someone else is the way to uncover the qualities that are already inside you.
Pretending will help you cross the difficult bridge. When you get to the other side, you realize that you already had what it took to get there. You just needed help going over it.
Todd Herman has figured out how you can use your alter ego to achieve what seems impossible to you. His proven method can teach us how to stop procrastinating and get things done.
You have motivate yourself
As a mental strength coach with twenty-one years of working with elite athletes, performers and leaders, he writes that there is one thing he can’t coach people on. That’s motivation. He won’t touch it. No one coach can create that for you.
It’s encouraging to learn that feeling, not intellect is what drives motivation. For me, the bad news is, I’m not tech savvy. The good news is, I am motivated.
The motivation within comes from feeling emotionally connected to it. It is almost impossible to take action toward something you don’t really care about. But once we figure out what it is, we have to pursue it. No matter the cost or the outcome.
We are all motivated for different reasons, all are as good as the next. My family motivates me the most.
I earned an income working from home and worked around my son’s schedules so I wouldn’t miss opportunities to be with them. When I learned I had anxiety disorder, I didn’t want to pass that behavior down to them. I think my determination to be a better mother helped me overcome it.
My family is the reason why I exercise too. I want to keep up with everybody! And when my kids have kids, I don’t want them leaving me behind.
I figured out why I had years of back pain because I was sick and tired of it. Determined not to have to depend on anyone, I learned how to stop it.
When you figure out what motivates you, don’t let anything stop you.
It takes work
So many times I’ve witnessed people struggling with anxiety, pain, clutter, or overwhelm. They don’t do the work needed to get better or make changes to be happier. My nature is to want to help. But I’ve learned to take a step back because sadly, most people won’t take action. Those who are motivated, usually get better when they trying to improve themselves.
I am proof that doing the work makes you better. Often times it only takes a few months of your life to change a bad habit. And you have the rest of your life to benefit from the good habit. I want to reach out to you – who is motivated to change.
The fact that I had absolutely no idea how to start a website may be the reason why decided to do it. I didn’t not know what I was in for. After 1 year and 1/2, I’m realizing that the technology is getting more difficult.
I’ve learned skills that helped me overcome anxiety, depression and pain. I’ve mastered a life changing method of decluttering my home. And I very much want to help you do the same. But there are more obstacles.
I don’t know what I’m doing
I have the amazing ability to click on something I shouldn’t have. This takes me hours to undo.
Therefore, I stopped clicking.
My fears involve designing, navigating, and marketing my website. I’ve come so far, and I don’t want to fail, so I procrastinate.
I’m constantly learning new ways to live more simply, but it can be challenging to write about it.
So for now, I’m learning how to use this psychological trick to help me get by my fear of moving forward. I have to pick somebody who I want to be like and pretend to be her. When I get stuck in a difficult situation, I would say, “What would _____do”?
Then I have to think of a name of the devastating tech monster that scares me. And one for the monster who tells me I can’t do this . This way I can bully them back.
I hope I’m up for the challenge.
I chose Princess Diana as my alter ego. She was a trailblazer who sometimes got in trouble for following her heart more than her head. She had love for people, patience, open-mindedness, trustworthiness, and intelligence. Mostly I see her as a loving mother. I will pretend to be her when I hit the wall.
She was only 36
She died when was 36. I was 36 too, and just one of the hundreds of millions of people who felt an emptiness inside watching Elton John sing Goodbye England’s Rose at Westminster Abbey. She was a fascinating woman who will forever be remembered.
Princess Diana had struggles with her mental health and her life was difficult sometimes. But When I think of her, I only see a sweet, beautiful soul. She helped people who felt unloved. I think most will remember her that way.
A quote from Diana in A Tribute to the People’s Princess:
I think the biggest disease this world suffers from in this day and age is the disease of feeling unloved, and I know that I can give love for a minute, for a half an hour, for a day, for a month, but I can give. I’m very happy to do that and I want to do that.
A quote from Princess Diana about her sons:
I will fight for my children on any level so they can reach their potential as human beings, and in their public duties. A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s. Family is the most important thing in the world. I live for my sons.
No one is perfect
As a perfectionist and someone who overcame anxiety disorder, loving and accepting myself with all of my flaws is work in progress. Diana reminds me to push my doubts aside. We all struggle in some way. And we’re good enough just the way we are (forgetful, stubborn, sensitive, skeptical – but it’s OK – LOL). She will motivate me to stop procrastinating so I can get things done now, not months from now.
You just need to find it
Building an Alter Ego is not about creating a false mask it’s about finding the hero already inside you. It s a proven way of overcoming the self-doubt, negativity, and insecurity that hold you back, and empowering you to ultimately become your best self. Todd Herman
Too many times we give in to our negative self talk which brings us down. It will keep us there if we let it. Pretending to be someone else when we struggle most is like playing a game. Winning this game will help us stop procrastinating now, so we can do what motivates us.
Who on earth do you think you are? A superstar? Well right you are!
Who would you choose if you needed an alter ego to help you? Why?