“Learn To Let Go. That Is The Key To Happiness.”
Some of us are better equipped at making decisions than others. Even small decisions like what to wear – or if we should we go to the party – take us too long to decide. Bigger decisions like, what we want to do in our lives can keep us stagnant indefinitely.
There are probably many factors that contribute to our inability to make decisions but having confidence certainly makes it easier.
We can gain confidence if we continuously make successful decisions. But before delving into what will help us with that skill, some questions to consider are:
What kind of lifestyle makes you happy?
- Spending time with family
- Entertaining friends
- Beach house
- Cabin life
- Active and being outdoors
- Meaningful work
Ask yourself: (and write your answers!)
- Am I happy with work?
- How are my relationships with the people I love?
- Am I happy at home?
- What am I passionate about?
My Ideal Life:
- Where would I be living?
- Who would I be spending my time with?
- Which types of people would I spend my time with?
- What kind of home would I like to have?
- What is my ideal job?
- A typical day that I would love…
None of these questions will require you to make decisions about how to achieve this lifestyle right at this moment, but your answers will give you something to think about.
Next, what can you do to help make decisions that will get you the life you want?
You might need a little help learning more about yourself – You know where you’ve been, but the more difficult question is where do you want to go?
Think of A Vision Board
If you were to create a vision board, what would yours have? (Because everything you want or own has significance in your life).
The first thing you can do to learn more about what you want – is to start with where you live. The items in your home will tell you more than you know.
Assess What You Have And Why You Have It
The first decisions you can make to get you closer to your ideal life is to assess your stuff. Your home can have a lot of clutter or just a little, but you will experience the same self- discovery by making decisions about all of your items.
These 3 Things Will Tell You A Lot About Yourself
1. What You Accumulate
2. Where You Put It
3. Why You Keep It
You probably won’t have the the answers to these 3 questions now, but the transformation is Magical after you’ve assessed all of your things and figured out why you kept them.
A Brilliant Concept
After years of trial and error, Marie Kondo, author of The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up came up with a brilliant concept of asking if each item in our home sparks joy.
Isn’t this what motivates us to do anything? We make decisions about our stuff because we want what brings us happiness in our homes. We will eventually figure out what brings joy in our lives.
Some Things You Have That Do Not Spark Joy Are:
- Clothes you once loved but don’t wear anymore
- Pictures or letters from your past which hold you back from moving on with your life
- Books you will never read
- Dishes you will never use
- Furniture you don’t like
You Loved It Once
Initially you brought something new into your home because it gave you joy, but over time the joyful feeling you once had from the item has left you. But you choose to keep them because you paid good money or you would feel guilty if you got rid of it.
Your mother may have asked you to hold onto an heirloom for safekeeping but you don’t like it and will never use it, even though it takes up space.
If you reexamine your items – it comes down to the question:
“Is it possible that I will use this again, or is it probable?”
If something does not spark joy for you now, it probably never will again. Saving space for it in your home will also take up space in your mind.
Making Decisions About Your Stuff Gives You Confidence
To get better at the skill of decision making, you should begin by assessing all of your clothes first because you have the least attachment to them.
- Ask If Each And Every Item Brings You Joy
- You can make it easier to give things away by lovingly touching and thanking each of your possessions before letting them go. The idea that they will bring somebody else joy can also reassure you that you are doing the right thing.
Your Decisions Will Pave The Way
It may not make sense why keeping only items that bring you joy can affect your life and your relationships, but by making thousands of decisions about your stuff can help you feel more confident in the your abilities to do so. This can pave the way for what brings you joy in your life.
What You Keep Will Give You Clues
What you decide to keep will contribute to the life you want now and in the future because everything else will be eliminated.
Things Become Clear
You can gain clarity as to which friends you want to keep, work at a job that enriches you, and have relationships that bring you up.
Commit From Start To Finish
If you commit to Marie Kondo’s process of de-cluttering by categories, and doing it thoroughly and completely the transformation you can experience is life changing.
Choose The Life That Will Bring You Joy
If you clear the space, the abundance can come in. Once you make decisions about each and every item you own, you will be better equipped to choose the life that will bring you joy.
Our items at home surround us in the place where we want to find sanctuary from the world. If we have things that are not beautiful and useful that we will use NOW, they can often prevent us from living out the life we want.
Overcome The Obstacle
Your home may be the obstacle that is preventing you from making decisions that will bring you joy. Even normal amounts of clutter can block things from reaching you.
By keeping only what you love will help perfect your decision-making skills. This leads you to assessing what is most important in your life.
Your Own Therapy
Making decisions about what you want to keep in your home/life is like cognitive behavioral therapy where you are engaging in rational self-talk, followed up by positive affirmations and changing your beliefs.
The very least that will happen from assessing all of your things is that your space will be clear, but I promise that you will experience much more. We not only let go of things. But we let go of beliefs, figure out what motivates us, and even like ourselves more.
What items are you holding onto that bring you joy?